和谁在一起，真的很重要

你是谁？你身边都有谁？

Who are you? Who are you with?

这两个问题，决定了你的一生会是什么样的。

These two questions determine what your life is going to be like.

微博上有一句非常火的话：你的水平，是你最常接触的5个人的平均值。

There is a very popular saying on Weibo: Your level is the average of the five people you come into contact with most often.

与你交往的人想法越多、层次越高，你的能力提升就越快，机会就越多。

The more thoughtful and advanced the people you interact with, the faster your abilities will grow and the more opportunities you will have.

与你交往的人越积极、越乐观，你的生活也就越有趣，状态也就越好。

The more positive and optimistic the people you associate with, the more interesting your life will be and the better off you will be.

近朱者赤，近墨者黑。环境对于一个人的影响，是潜移默化、由量变到质变的。

One takes on the color of one's company. The influence of environment on a person is imperceptible, from quantitative change to qualitative change.

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和靠谱的人在一起

和靠谱的人在一起，你不用时时担心要给他“补锅”，更不用担心他“半路撂挑子”，和他在一起就俩字：放心。

When you are with a reliable person, you don't have to worry about "making up the pot" for him from time to time, let alone worrying about him "picking him halfway", just two words when you are with him: don't worry.

而这个时候，每个人都能有更多的精力专注在自己的事情上，相互之前形成的合力可以办成更大的事情。

At this time, everyone can have more energy to focus on their own things, and the joint force formed before can accomplish bigger things.

这就是为什么很多初创公司招人时，要求里都会写一条：“靠谱”。

That's why many startups include the word "reliable" in their hiring requirements.

一个人最大的能力，就是让人放心、让人觉得靠谱。

A person's greatest ability is to make people feel safe and reliable.

不管是工作还是生活中，这样的人一旦开始做某件事，就会负责到底，并且做到能力范围内最好。

Whether in work or in life, once they start something, they stick to it and do it to the best of their ability.

如何判断一个人是否靠谱，有这8个小细节：

Here are 8 little things you can tell if someone is trustworthy:

收到回复、不占小便宜、守时、说到做到、不吹嘘、情绪稳定、有底线、执行力强。

Being responsive, not taking advantage of others, being punctual, doing what you say you're going to do, not bragging, being emotionally stable, having a bottom line, and being able to execute.

一个系统bug交到技术大神手里，我们说「这人靠谱」，是信任他的专业水准；

When a system bug is handed to a technical master, we say "this person is reliable", which means we trust his professional level.

跟客户沟通，我们说「这个人去靠谱」，是相信他一定能得体行事，见招拆招。

When communicating with customers, we say "this person is reliable", because we believe that he will be able to act appropriately.

靠谱的人，有能力，有担当，不拖别人的后腿，与之相交，省心又省力。

Reliable people, have ability, have responsibility, do not drag others back, with the intersection, save worry and effort.

有句话说得好，“和聪明人聊天，和靠谱的人共事”。

As the saying goes, "Talk to smart people and work with good people."

这个世界上，聪明人很多，靠谱的人却是凤毛麟角。能与靠谱的人在一起，就是你最大的福气。

In this world, there are many smart people, but few reliable people. To be with the right people is your greatest blessing.

做一个靠谱的成年人，当困难来临的时候，希望你有足够的底气和能力对周围的人说：“别担心，有我在。”

Be a responsible adult. I hope you have the confidence and ability to say to those around you, "Don't worry, I'm here for you."

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和积极上进的人在一起

面对同样一件事情，不同心态的人处理起来完全不一样。

Facing the same thing, people with different mentality deal with it in completely different ways.

和一个正能量的人经常在一起，生活态度也会积极向上；和一个整天抱怨、整天吐槽的人在一起，你可能永远不知道什么是快乐。

Spending time with a positive person will lead to a positive attitude toward life. You may never know what happiness is with someone who complains and makes fun of you all the time.

和积极上进的人在一起有多重要，大学宿舍最能说明这个问题。这一点，想必很多人都深有感触。

There is no better illustration of how important it is to surround yourself with motivated people than a college dorm room. This point, I think many people feel deeply.

前几年，四川大学一个男生宿舍上了微博热搜：6个男生，共拿到17个保研offer。

A few years ago, a male dormitory in Sichuan University became a hot search on Weibo: 6 male students got 17 offers of postgraduate guarantee.

其中一人放弃清华offer，准备出国；2人保研到清华、1人保研到北大、1人保研到中国科学院、1人保研到武汉大学。

One of them gave up the offer of Tsinghua university and prepared to go abroad. 2 to Tsinghua university, 1 to Peking University, 1 to Chinese Academy of Sciences, 1 to Wuhan University.

6个人中，有4人连续3年专业成绩第一，有人在斯坦福大学演讲过，有人在国际遗传工程机器大赛获得全球金奖，还有人在中亚论坛担任过外国驻华大使的随行翻译。

Among the six, four ranked first in their majors for three consecutive years. One gave a lecture at Stanford University, another won a global gold medal in the International Genetic Engineering Machine Competition, and another worked as an interpreter for foreign ambassadors in China at the Central Asia Forum.

采访中他们坦言：“当然也有想放弃的时候，不过一旦有人松懈，其他兄弟就会提醒他、帮他解决问题。过程虽然痛苦，但为了最后的结果，都是值得的。”

"Of course there are times when you want to give up, but when someone slacks off, the other brothers remind them and help them out," they said. The process was painful, but it was worth it for the end result.

所以你看，当你在一个优秀的圈子里，在一片向上的氛围中，周围的人都在努力，你自然也会用相对严格的标准，审视自己、提高自己。

So you see, when you're in a good group, you're in an upwardly mobile environment, and you're surrounded by people who are trying hard, you're going to look at yourself and improve yourself with relatively strict standards.

最怕的是，原本你很优秀，由于周围那些消极的人影响了你，使你缺乏向上的压力，丧失前进的动力，而变得俗不可耐，如此平庸。

The biggest fear is that you were excellent, but because of the negative people around you, you lack upward pressure, lose the motivation to move forward, and become vulgar, so mediocre.

这就像是你的味觉会适应一种食物一样。

It's like your sense of taste ADAPTS to a food.

如果你每顿饭吃的都是相同的食物，那么渐渐地，你的味觉就会适应它，甚至会上瘾。等到你需要吃东西的时候，第一个想起的就是那种食物。

If you eat the same food at every meal, over time, your sense of taste will adapt to it and become addicted to it. When you need something to eat, that's the first thing that comes to mind.

和自律的人在一起，你不会甘于堕落；和积极的人在一起，你才不会步入平庸。

When you are with disciplined people, you will never let yourself fall. Surround yourself with positive people so you don't drift into mediocrity.

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和愿意帮你的人在一起

在工作和生活中，虽然说更多是靠个人学习，但是，如果有一个好的领导、一个好的领路人，绝对会让你的进步更快。

In work and life, although more depends on personal learning, but if you have a good leader, a good guide, will definitely make your progress faster.

在很多求职面试攻略里都会说到一点，“跳槽换工作时，除了看公司效益、岗位发展，一定要看你的领导。一看他是否有能力帮你，二看他是否愿意帮你。”

Many job interview tips say, "When changing jobs, in addition to the company's benefits and career development, you must look at your leader. See if he is able to help you and if he is willing to help you."

自媒体作者焱公子曾在华为工作多年，他在文章这样写到自己第一份工作中，领导对他的帮助。

We-media author Mr. Yan has worked for Huawei for many years. He wrote about his first job in this article, and the leadership helped him.

“直到现在，我还清晰地记得，12年前‘闯大祸’的那个下午。当时我站在上级老卢的办公室里，等待着他的裁决。”

"I still vividly remember that afternoon 12 years ago. I was standing in the office of my superior, Lao Lu, waiting for his verdict."

当时，焱公子刚工作一年，“年少气盛”的他写了一篇疯狂吐槽客户的文章，指名道姓、毫不避讳，然后群发给了部门所有人。

At that time, Yan had just started working for a year. As a young man, he wrote a crazy article poking fun at the customer by name and then sent it to everyone in the department.

因为过于写实，文章一发布就引发内部疯狂转发。

Because it is too realistic, the article caused a frenzy of internal forwarding.

领导老卢及时介入，发了封措辞严厉的工作邮件，这才遏止进一步扩散。

The leader, Lou lu, stepped in with a sternly worded working email to stem the spread.

然而事后在办公室里，老卢开口说的话令焱公子大吃一惊：“我在通信圈做了快十年，你是我见过写文章最有才的。将来有一天，没准儿你会靠这个吃饭。

However, later in the office, Lu surprised Yan by saying, "I've been working in the communications industry for nearly ten years. You are the most talented article writer I've ever seen. Someday, maybe you'll make a living out of it.

只是，下次再写，记得模糊关键信息，不要授人以柄，不要因此给自己和公司惹麻烦。”

Just, next time, be vague about the key information, don't give anyone an excuse, and don't get yourself or your company in trouble for it."

焱公子说，“当时我绝不会想到，十几年后，我真的仅仅靠写文就能吃上饭。这句预言，竟是出自我的第一任上级之口，还是在我闯下弥天大祸的时候。”

"I never thought that ten years later, I would be able to earn a living just by writing articles," said Yan. This prediction was made by my first superior when I was in great trouble."

“老卢彻底改变了我对管理者一贯简单粗暴的刻板印象。亦因此，我的第一份工作，深刻地塑造了我的工作观与价值观。回望过去，这是我职业生涯最大的幸运。”

"Lou lu has completely changed my stereotype of managers as being simple and abrasive. That's why my first job profoundly shaped my work ethic and values. Looking back, it was the greatest blessing of my career."

所以，一个人在年轻时的很多选择，并不只是一份工作、一件事情，而是一种思维习惯、工作方式、价值观甚至生活方式。

Therefore, many choices a person makes when he or she is young are not just a job or a thing, but a habit of thinking, a way of working, values and even a way of life.

在初入职场、初入社会的几年，处于何种工作环境、跟谁一起工作、被谁辅导工作，足以影响你的下半辈子。

The environment you work in, with whom you work, and whom you are mentored in those first years of your career and life can affect the rest of your life.

从现在开始，别再轻信“和谁在一起都一样”的谎言，站得高才能望得远，才能领略更多的风景。

From now on, don't fall for the lie that "it's the same who you're with." Stand tall so you can see farther and see more.

你无权决定自己出生的高度，但有权决定身边站的人和自己所处的环境。

You have no right to determine the height of your birth, but you have the right to determine who stands next to you and your environment.

余生不长，和不一样的人在一起，就会有不一样的人生。和优秀的人同行，能帮助你遇见更好的自己。爱情婚姻也如此，家庭事业也如此，人生道路也如此。

The rest of my life is not long, and different people together, will have a different life. Hanging out with great people will help you meet a better version of yourself. So is love and marriage, so is family and career, so is life path.

和谁在一起，的确很重要。

It does matter who you're with.