这4个“贫穷陷阱”，聪明的人都会避开-

很多时候，我们过不好自己的生活，其实是陷入了这4个人生陷阱。

Most of the time when we don't live our lives well, we fall into these four traps.

01

加法陷阱

听过这样一则寓言故事：

Heard this fable:

一个人去沙漠寻宝，可宝藏还没找到，水就喝光了，他只好躺在沙漠中，等待死亡。这时，佛祖出现了，给了他很多水，足够走出沙漠。

A man went to the desert to hunt for treasure, but before the treasure was found, the water ran out, and he had to lie in the desert, waiting for death. At this time, the Buddha appeared and gave him a lot of water, enough to get out of the desert.

可走到半路，他遇到了宝藏。于是，他贪婪地将宝藏塞满身上所有的口袋。负重前行的他，很快就干渴难耐，水瞬间被他喝光了。

But halfway there, he came across treasure. So he greedily filled all his pockets with the treasure. He soon became thirsty and drank all the water in an instant.

为了走出沙漠，他开始一件一件丢掉宝藏。最后，他丢光了所有宝藏，却依然渴死在路上。

In order to get out of the desert, he began to throw away treasures one by one. In the end, he lost all his treasures, but still died of thirst on the road.

人生，应该是一个不断做减法的过程。不断选择、放弃、再选择、再放弃，直到剩下最重要的。

Life should be a process of constant subtraction. Keep choosing, giving up, choosing and giving up until what is most important is left.

想得到的东西越多，越容易得不到。懂得取舍的人，得到的越多。

The more you want, the easier it is to get nothing. People who know how to choose, get more.

处理掉不重要的东西，才能还自己的心一片清净之地，专注最重要的事情。

When you get rid of the unimportant things, you can restore your heart to a clean place and focus on the most important things.

02

缺乏长期规划陷阱

日本街头，曾做过一个实验：

In the streets of Japan, there was an experiment:

随机给一位流浪汉大叔100万日元，表示一天之内，他可以随便花。条件是：24小时后，要收回剩余的钱。

Give a homeless man 1 million yen at random, which means he can spend whatever he wants in one day. The condition is: 24 hours later, the rest of the money back.

首先，他去宾馆洗了澡，在便利店购买了T恤、毛巾、雨伞、纸袋......随后，大叔又走进了日本大型便利购物折扣店，再次购买了T恤和毛巾。

First, he went to the hotel to take a shower, bought T-shirts, towels, umbrellas, paper bags at the convenience store... Then, he went into a large convenience shopping discount store in Japan and bought T-shirts and towels again.

当跟拍者以为，他接下来该去奢侈一把的时候。大叔突然说：“就这样吧。”

When the follower thinks he's going to splurge next. Suddenly the uncle said, "That's all."

最后，给他的100万，他仅仅只花了不到3万，买了吃、穿、日用品。

Finally, of the 1 million yuan given to him, he only spent less than 30,000 yuan to buy food, clothes and daily necessities.

一个人越缺什么，越关注什么，然后陷入“稀缺模式”，看不到更重要的事。

The more a person lacks something, the more he pays attention to something, and then falls into "scarcity mode", unable to see more important things.

美国经济学家穆来纳森说：

American economist Nathan Mullenathan says:

“长期处于稀缺状态的穷人，会被稀缺心态消耗大量带宽；

"The poor who are in a state of scarcity for a long time will consume a lot of bandwidth due to the scarcity mentality;

其判断力和认知能力会因过于关注眼前问题而大大降低，而没有多余带宽来考虑投资和长远发展事宜。”

"Their judgment and cognitive skills are impaired by being so focused on immediate issues that they don't have the bandwidth to think about investment and long-term growth."

那些能成功的人，往往不是力量最大的人，而是坚持够久的人，他们能够把规划的时间线拉长，站在未来五年、十年的长度来思考自己的人生。

Those who can succeed are often not the most powerful, but those who persist long enough. They can lengthen the time line of planning and think about their own life from the perspective of the next five or ten years.

03

痛苦陷阱

痛苦无法避免，但苦难可以被选择。

Pain cannot be avoided, but suffering can be chosen.

笼子里关着一只狗。它伸出爪子，想逃脱囚禁。碰到栏杆的那一刻，笼子上的警笛响起，立马有人给它以电击。

There is a dog in a cage. It stretched out its claws, trying to escape captivity. The moment it hit the railing, the siren on the cage sounded, and someone gave it an electric shock.

狗缩回爪子，但渴望自由，依旧试着扒栏而出。可每次碰到栏杆，它都会在警笛声中，迎来电击的疼痛。如此循环，反反复复。

The dog withdrew its paws, but eager to be free, still tried to get out of the fence. But every time it touched the railing, it would usher in the pain of electric shock in the sound of the siren. This cycle, over and over again.

最后一次警笛响起时，在电击之前，人们就把笼门打开。但狗却没有逃离，甚至不等电击出现，就倒在地上，颤抖呻吟。笼门始终打开，它，却再也出不去了。

The last time the sirens went off, people left the cage doors open before the shocks. But the dog did not flee, and before the shock appeared, it fell to the ground, trembling and moaning. The cage door is always open, but it can't get out again.

这个经典的实验，验证了何为“习得性无助”：因为过往频繁的失败或惩罚，导致放弃努力的消极行为。

This classic experiment verifies what is "learned helplessness": the negative behavior of giving up efforts due to frequent failures or punishments in the past.

落到生活里，它也被称为，令人失败的思维毒瘤。

When it comes to life, it's also known as a mental cancer of failure.

困在曾经的痛苦里，放弃行动和改变，恐惧明天，后悔昨天，也过不好今天。

Trapped in the pain of the past, giving up action and change, fearing tomorrow, regretting yesterday, and not living well today.

其实，真实的痛苦持续的时间并不长，任何一种情绪产生之后，只要别抓着不放，它自己就会消失。

In fact, real pain does not last very long. Any emotion that has been created, if you don't hold on to it, it will go away.

痛苦无法避免，但苦难却可以被选择。接受痛苦，付诸行动，做出改变，方能翻越人生的山丘。

Pain cannot be avoided, but suffering can be chosen. Accept the pain, put it into action, make changes, and you can climb the hills of life.

04

贪婪陷阱

• 贪图名声，浮躁功利

西晋著名文学家潘岳，年少时颇有才华，性格浮躁，趋炎附势。潘岳先是充当权臣幕僚，后历任京官，但始终负其才而不得志。

Pan Yue, a famous writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, was very talented when he was young. Pan Yue first served as a powerful official and then served as a Beijing official, but he was always frustrated by his talent.

潘岳参与了贾谧领导的“二十四友”文人集团后，才迎来了事业的转折点。这个文人集团聚集了当时的权贵，能成为此间一员，可谓名利双收。

After Pan Yue participated in the "Twenty-Four Friends" literati group led by Jia Mi, he ushered in a turning point in his career. This literati group gathered the powerful and powerful at that time, and being able to become a member here can be said to gain both fame and fortune.

潘岳的母亲曾劝他不要攀附权势，他虽然口头答应，但贪慕名利之心不改。八王之乱后，司马伦夺权成功，遂诛杀了潘岳。

Pan Yue's mother once advised him not to cling to power, but although he promised verbally, his heart did not change. After the rebellion of the Eight Kings, Sima Lun succeeded in seizing power and killed Pan Yue.

潘岳因自己的“性情躁，趋势利”而卷入一场权力争斗中，害了自己的性命。

Pan Yue was involved in a power struggle that cost him his own life because of his "impetuous temperament and tendency to profit".

品格优良的人是淡泊名声的，贪图名声的人反而会被名声所累，甚至被名声所害。

A man of good character is indifferent to fame, and a man who covet fame will be burdened by it, even by it.

不要对名声过于贪心，贪图名利只会让你忘记初心，变得浮躁势利。

Don't be too greedy for fame. It will only make you forget where you started and become a snob.

凡事不争不抢，张弛有度，才能收获好名声。

Everything does not fight not rob, relaxation degree, to harvest a good reputation.