别因不好意思拒绝别人，而憋屈了自己

朋友开口借车，自己不好意思不借，结果违章好多次，也不好意思说，只好吃哑巴亏；

A friend asked to borrow a car, but he was embarrassed not to borrow it. As a result, he violated the rules many times, and was also embarrassed to say so, so he had to be dumb;

亲戚求自己办事，能力不够硬着头皮答应，最后没办成，不仅没人说声谢谢，还落一身不是；

Relatives asked for their own services, but they were not strong enough to agree, and finally failed to do so. Not only did no one say thank you, but also fell into trouble;

在车流密集的地方开着车，有人给自己一遍遍打电话，你担心对方有急事，不情愿地接听，可差点酿成事故；

When driving in a place with dense traffic flow, someone calls you again and again. If you are worried about the other party's emergency, you reluctantly answer the phone, which almost leads to an accident;

不靠谱的亲朋和自己借钱，明明知道很可能是肉包子打狗，还是把刚拿到的工资借给了他，结果自己吃了两个月的泡面，连根火腿都舍不得买……

Unreliable relatives and friends borrowed money from themselves. They knew it was probably meat buns that beat the dog, or lent him the salary they just got. As a result, they ate instant noodles for two months and couldn't even afford to buy a ham

这些，都是亲眼所见，有的还是自己亲身体会。

All of these have been seen with my own eyes, and some of them are my own experience.

开始的时候，我们以为这样做，可以换取别人的喜欢。

At the beginning, we thought that doing so could exchange others' likes.

并不是，更多时候，换来的只有肆无忌惮和理所当然。

No, more often than not, the only thing that comes in return is unbridled and taken for granted.

不要让不好意思绑架了你自己，人与人之间相处，内心既要柔软，也要树立起原则，能做到的就做，做不到的要学会说不，自己不为难自己，就没有人能够为难得了你。

Don't let embarrassment kidnap you. When dealing with others, you should be soft and set up principles. Do what you can do, and learn to say no if you can't do it. If you don't embarrass yourself, no one can make you difficult.

拒绝只是一句话的事，要是学不会拒绝，后面的麻烦就会一直翻着跟头跟着你。

Rejection is just a matter of one sentence. If you can't learn to refuse, the trouble behind you will always turn around and follow you.

最舒服的关系，是不必讨好。

The most comfortable relationship is not to please.

无论和谁交往，记住一个原则就不会活得憋屈：别违心，以及别后悔。

No matter who you associate with, remember one principle and you will not live in frustration: don't disobey your heart and don't regret it.