人过了50岁，最好的依靠，是这三个人

时光匆匆如流水，年轮一圈圈长出。衰老是谁也改变不了的生命规律。

Time is like water in a hurry, and the annual rings grow in circles. Aging is the law of life that no one can change.

但生命不息，对生活的热爱也不止。认真活出自己，认真珍惜身边所爱之人，认真过好每个朝朝暮暮，将每一分每一秒，都活得摇曳生姿。

But where there is life, there is love for life. Seriously live out of their own, seriously cherish the people you love, seriously every day and night, every minute and every second, all live to sway health posture.

五十岁之后，想要过得幸福，最好的依靠，是这三个人。

After fifty years old, want to live a happy life, the best rely on, is these three people.

自己

都说：在家靠父母，出门靠朋友。

They say: rely on parents at home, go out to rely on friends.

可转头想想，父母终会老去，亲人不可能永远陪在身边，朋友也做不到一直倾囊相助。

But turn to think, parents will be old, relatives can not always accompany, friends can not always help.

还有句话说：靠山山会倒，靠水水会枯，靠庙庙会塌，靠神神会跑。

There is another saying: the mountains will fall, water will dry up, temples will collapse, God will run.

话粗理不粗。没有人会一直给你依靠，即使靠得了一时，也靠不了一世。

The words are not coarse. No one will always give you to rely on, even if you can rely on a time, also can not rely on the world.

靠自己，才是王道。

On your own, is king.

张爱玲在《半生缘》里说：“中年以后的人，时常会觉得孤独。因为一睁开眼，周围都是要依靠他的人。而他却无人依靠。”

Eileen Chang said in "Half Life Destiny" : "People after middle age often feel lonely. Because when he opens his eyes, he's surrounded by people who depend on him. He has no one to rely on."

随着年龄增长，渐渐明白：人人都有自己的难，家家都有本难念的经。很多时候帮你是情分，不帮你是本分。

As I grow older, I gradually understand that everyone has their own difficulties, and every family has its own difficulties. Most of the time to help you is loyalty, do not help you is duty.

一个人最大的靠山，是自己；一个人最终的归宿，也是自己。

A person's biggest backer, is himself; A person's final destination, but also their own.

依靠、依附他人，就得看他人脸色，把所有希望都寄托在别人身上，事事受命于人，处处被人左右，便没法获得真正的安全感，又谈何过上想要的生活呢？

Rely on, depend on others, you have to see the face of others, put all hope on others, everything is ordered by people, everywhere by people, can not get a real sense of security, and talk about how to live the life you want?

世上所有的底气，都要靠自己挣。钱靠自己挣，困难自己能解决，把家庭经营好，酸甜苦辣一并消受，生活的底气因此而生。

All the confidence in the world, must rely on their own to earn. Money earned by their own, difficulties can be solved by themselves, the family management, sour, sweet, bitter and hot together, life is born.

生活，有光有影，有晴有雨，我们都须拥有与之博弈的勇气。

Life, light and shadow, rain and sunshine, we must have the courage to play with it.

全靠自己，风生水起。

All on their own, the wind and water.

老伴

这世上，除了父母，老伴就是最亲的人。

In this world, in addition to parents, his wife is the closest person.

两个陌生人结成姻缘，年轻时携手走过风风雨雨，年老后彼此相濡以沫。可谓：少年夫妻老来伴。

Two strangers formed a bond, walking hand in hand through the ups and downs of their youth, and caring each other in their old age. It may be said: the young couple come together old.

“要吃还是家常饭，要穿还是粗布衣，知冷知热是结发夫妻”，老了，有个在乎你的冷暖、关心你的悲欢的老伴，是一生最大的幸福。

"To eat or home-cooked meals, to wear or coarse cloth clothes, knowing cold and knowing heat is married", old, have a care about your cold and warm, care about your wife, is the greatest happiness of life.

罗振宇原本认为婚姻是无趣的，但是一位老人改变了他对婚姻的看法。老人说：

Luo Zhenyu originally thought marriage was boring, but an old man changed his mind. The old man said.

婚姻，就为了我午夜三点醒来的时候，我口渴，我伤口疼，我只需要捅捅旁边，老太婆就知道，我这个时候要喝水。

Marriage, just for me to wake up at three o 'clock in the midnight, I'm thirsty, my wound hurts, I just need to poke next to, the old woman knows, I want to drink water at this time.

就这一口水，你说多贵？如果没有几十年经营出来的婚姻，这个时候，我上哪儿去要这口昂贵的水？

How expensive is this water? Without a marriage that has been in the works for decades, where am I going to get this expensive water at this point?

虽然年纪大了，但一想到身边还有老伴，就能安心地一觉睡到太阳升起。

Although I am old, I can sleep safely until the sun comes up when I think of my wife beside me.

儿女再孝顺，也不能常伴身旁，老伴是能陪伴你的人，也是你可以依靠的人。人到老年，一定要珍惜老伴。

No matter how filial your children are, they can't always be with you. Your wife is someone who can accompany you and someone you can rely on. When one grows old, one must cherish his wife.

“我能想到最浪漫的事，就是和你一起慢慢变老”，幸福，与老伴一起创造；快乐，和老伴一同寻找；然后相濡以沫过一生。

"I can think of the most romantic thing, is to grow old with you", happiness, and his wife together to create; Happy, and his wife to find; And spend the rest of our lives together.

相知相依，不离不弃。有你在，便安心，便不惧白云苍狗，世事难料。

Friends depend on each other, never abandon. Have you in, then peace of mind, will not be afraid of white clouds Canggu, things are unpredictable.

孩子

赵朴初先生说，父母的家永远是孩子的家，子女的家从来不是父母的家。

Mr. Zhao Puchu said that the parents' home is always the children's home, and the children's home is never the parents' home.

养儿防老，最好不过。但现实情况很难满足。

It's best to raise our children for old age. But reality is hard to satisfy.

白岩松有段话一针见血：

Bai Yansong's quote hit the nail on the head:

“想要养儿防老几乎不可能，不是儿子不孝顺，而是一对小年轻上面四个，上面这四个顶上还剩两三个呢，请问他养得起吗？”

"It is almost impossible for him to raise his children for old age. It is not that his son is unfilial, but that there are only two or three young men left on top of the four. Can he afford it?"

聪明的父母不会指望孩子养老，靠自己养老才更靠谱，才能活得更自由，更有尊严。

Smart parents do not expect their children to retire. It is more reliable to retire on their own, so that they can live a more free and dignified life.

年老后，和儿女之间更多的是情感羁绊。孩子有空常来看望、陪伴自己，和自己打打电话，彼此挂念着，知道对方的心里有自己，就很好。

In old age, there is more of an emotional bond with children. Children often come to visit, accompany themselves, and their own phone, miss each other, know each other's heart has their own, it is very good.

孩子孝顺，是父母的福分，更多的不必强求。

Children filial piety, is the blessing of parents, more need not be forced.

人过五十，不需要跟孩子生活在同一屋檐下，而是享受孩子给的精神慰藉，有孩子的爱和陪伴，就不会感到孤单。

People over 50 do not need to live with their children under the same roof, but to enjoy the spiritual comfort of children, children's love and company, will not feel lonely.

一生风雨，几度沉浮。

Life wind and rain, a few degrees of ups and downs.

五十岁之后，如果身体健康，就是莫大的幸运。

After the age of fifty, if you are healthy, you are lucky.

五十岁以后，天空依旧晴朗，亲朋好友还在身旁，善待老伴，守住老本，儿女关心，就是最好的光景。

After the age of 50, the sky is still sunny, relatives and friends are still around, treat your wife well, keep the old, children care, is the best prospect.

若能如此老去，那么老去又何妨？

If you can be so old, so old?